Was it planned?

This is post is for The Parent Bloggers blog blast to coincide with the launch of the Body, Soul, & Baby campaign, a new pregnancy/new mom handbook by Dr. Tracy Gaudet (Director of Duke Medical School's Department of Integrative Medicine). I'm to answer the following question:

What’s the most annoying preggo or new mom question you’ve ever been asked — AND — what’s your best, snarky “wish-you-could-have-said-it” answer.

Well, there were SEVERAL to pick from... In fact, I mentioned a few in a previous post. For some reason, people seem to think that just because you recently found yourself in a delivery room with your who-ha displayed for all the world to see, you must be completely comfortable divulging every detail of your life- heart, soul, and sex life- over lunch... at work.

I was young and nine-months newly married when I got pregnant. I had also recently started a fabulous, new job, was a semester from completing my MBA, and just getting used my married name...

No, a sane person probably would NOT have planned to start a family right then and there... It just happens.

The truth is my husband and I knew we wanted children someday, but weren't sure we'd be able to have one right away. We had no reason to think we would have trouble conceiving, mind you. It was just that neither one of us had ever tried before. Plus, a lot of our friends seemed to be having fertility issues around this time, so we automatically thought we'd be in the same boat. We started trying with the expectation that it would take a while...

Guess what?! NOPE!

While our family and friends were thrilled with the news, the average acquaintance and random co-worker raised an eyebrow and with a smirk, unabashedly inquired, "Oh, so was it an accident?" or "was it planned?".

The sarcastic response I proudly gave was, "umm, well, I think I know how it happened"

Unless I make a habit of sharing intimate details of my life with you AND I've known for longer than a coffee break, you have no business asking about it, so just don't ask.

No, it wasn't the "perfect time" to have a baby, but that's only because there's NO SUCH THING as a good time to start a family. There will always be a reason to hold off- more money, more house, more time... but there are so many more reasons why I'm grateful for how things turned out. My son is a blessing and a gift from God and who am I turn down God.

Of course, the most annoying question I get as a SAHM is still "so, what do you do all day?" to which I reply, "Read my blog".

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“Don’t you wish you could have just handed them this?”