Last week, Parents Mag's Goody Blog posted an open letter to J.Lo and Marc Anthony regarding that tiger pit of a nursery of theirs. Staffers taking them to task on such baby-proofing faux pas as bows on the cribs and the like...
Reading this, I just rolled... my... eyes.
Sure Parents may have only being doing their job as the "experts", but is it any of their bees wax?
I can't tell you how many times I've fought the urge to go up to a couple holding a newborn and inform them that they are doing it "all wrong" or give that new moms' group who meet for Saturday brunch at our local diner the benefit of my extensive parenting wisdom...
Instead, I keep it to myself. I hold back, because I know what it's like to be a new mom. More importantly, I know what it's like to have a would be happy and exciting time poo-poo'd upon by well-doers and know-it-alls and their unsolicited "advice". It never ends well...
At one of my baby showers, a "friend" thought it would be fun and games to have every parent go in a circle and tell me everything about everything on babies. It was an endless barrage of horror story after horror story, but they were "only trying to help..."
Uh, more like vent and no, thank you. Yeah, it kinda ruined any joy or excitement I should have been feeling that day...
So what if I was delusional and misguided? It was my first baby and therefore my God-given right to not worry about night-time feedings or attachment issues... AT... MY... BABY... SHOWER!
For the record, I think their nursery is a DREAM and makes for a lovely photo op. Based on the comments incited by this "Memo to J. Lo.", many tend to agree as well... Not that J. Lo. or Marc Anthony personally asked.
Reading this, I just rolled... my... eyes.
Sure Parents may have only being doing their job as the "experts", but is it any of their bees wax?
I can't tell you how many times I've fought the urge to go up to a couple holding a newborn and inform them that they are doing it "all wrong" or give that new moms' group who meet for Saturday brunch at our local diner the benefit of my extensive parenting wisdom...
Instead, I keep it to myself. I hold back, because I know what it's like to be a new mom. More importantly, I know what it's like to have a would be happy and exciting time poo-poo'd upon by well-doers and know-it-alls and their unsolicited "advice". It never ends well...
At one of my baby showers, a "friend" thought it would be fun and games to have every parent go in a circle and tell me everything about everything on babies. It was an endless barrage of horror story after horror story, but they were "only trying to help..."
Uh, more like vent and no, thank you. Yeah, it kinda ruined any joy or excitement I should have been feeling that day...
So what if I was delusional and misguided? It was my first baby and therefore my God-given right to not worry about night-time feedings or attachment issues... AT... MY... BABY... SHOWER!
For the record, I think their nursery is a DREAM and makes for a lovely photo op. Based on the comments incited by this "Memo to J. Lo.", many tend to agree as well... Not that J. Lo. or Marc Anthony personally asked.
8 comments:
I completely agree with you. I don't understand people's obsession with commenting on the raising of OTHER people's children.
When our daughter was an infant and out with her father, there were always endless numbers of women (mostly older women) giving him unsolicited advice. He hated it... I'm careful to try not to give anyone, especially new parents, any advice unless they ask me a specific question.
I am with you on this one, I only give advice if I am asked and personally it is a lot cooler to get a call from a mom friend say hey I need to ask you something then me injecting my 2 cents.
I hate that people just think that you need their information...I get so many folks butting in to tell me what I'm doing wrong. Even now, with two babies! Butt out! (not you of course:)
Good grief! The nursery was probably just a photo op anyway! The Parenting Police are everywhere!
Hell, it's not like the kids are old enough yet to ever get into all that stuff anyway.
Yep, I'm pretty sure they don't give a crap what Parents thinks.
As for what happened to you at the baby shower, that was just WRONG.
A-men to THAT. I agree - let the people be already. I got all SORTS of free advice from my MIL and it drove me nuts (still does). :)
Let the twin-los be spoiled and nannied like they are destined to be!
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